How to Know If a Man Truly Loves You God’s Way (Not Just Emotionally)

 

                 Introduction

When Love Feels Right but Isn’t Rooted in God

In today’s world, love is often measured by butterflies, gifts, and sweet words. Many ladies mistake excitement for love, and attention for commitment. But true love - the kind that endures - is far deeper than emotions. Emotions can change with time, but godly love is intentional, spiritual, and steady. It is built not on how someone makes you feel, but on how someone helps you grow - in purpose, in faith, and in peace.

A man can say “I love you” with his lips, but a godly man says it with his actions, his respect, and his prayers.

This post will help you learn how to recognize the difference between emotional love and godly love through the story of Gloria — and reveal seven powerful signs that show when a man truly loves you God’s way.

Gloria’s Story: When Love Was Loud but Not Lasting

Gloria was active in her church’s youth choir when she met Emmanuel. He had a warm smile, prayed loudly during worship, and seemed deeply spiritual. He always told her, “You’re my answered prayer,” and called her his “Proverbs 31 woman.”

In the beginning, everything felt divine. Emmanuel sent her morning devotionals and ended every call with “I love you in Christ.”But as time passed, things began to shift.

Whenever Gloria talked about her dream to start a Christian women’s foundation, Emmanuel would sigh and say, “You think too big. Can’t you just focus on me and the marriage first?” Soon, he started avoiding deep conversations about faith, skipped church programs, and grew distant in prayer. His words were still gentle, but his heart no longer aligned with hers.

Gloria began to feel an emptiness she couldn’t explain. One evening after choir practice, she knelt before God in quiet tears and prayed,

“Lord, if this love isn’t Your will for me, please give me peace to let go.”

That night, she slept peacefully for the first time in weeks. When she woke, she realized something powerful — God’s love will never compete with your purpose; it will complement it. With strength and grace, Gloria ended the relationship. Painful as it was, peace followed her decision. And that peace became the sign that she had obeyed God.

Difference Between Emotional Love and Godly Love

**Emotional love is based on feelings; godly love is built on faith.

**Emotional love seeks attention; godly love seeks connection.

**Emotional love changes with mood; godly love stands through storms.

**Emotional love wants pleasure; godly love desires purpose.

**Emotional love says “I want you now”; godly love says “I’ll wait until God says it’s time.”

When you understand these differences, you’ll stop chasing chemistry and start looking for character.

 Understanding Red Flags and Why They Matter

Before you can recognize true love, you must learn to recognize false peace.

Red flags are early signs that something isn’t spiritually or emotionally right. They’re not always loud - sometimes they show up as quiet discomfort, confusion, or loss of peace. Ignoring them doesn’t make them go away. It only delays heartbreak.

Red flags are God’s gentle way of whispering, “My daughter, pay attention.”

🚩 What to Do When You Notice Red Flags

1️⃣ Pause, Don’t Panic —) Step back and pray for clarity before reacting emotionally.

2️⃣ Ask for Confirmation —) Seek peace from God; His Spirit never confuses.

3️⃣ Seek Godly Counsel —)Talk to a mature believer, pastor, or mentor who can pray with you.

4️⃣ Be Honest with Yourself —) Don’t excuse behaviors that drain your spirit. Love should lift you, not break you.

5️⃣ Walk Away in Peace if Necessary —) Sometimes obedience means letting go. Remember, it’s better to lose a man than to lose your peace.

Proverbs 4:23 — “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

7 Powerful Signs a Man Truly Loves You God’s Way

 1. He Values Your Relationship with God Above His Feelings

A godly man will encourage your spiritual growth. He won’t get jealous when you spend time with God. Instead, he’ll push you to pray, study the Word, and walk in purpose.

 Matthew 6:33 — “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

 2. His Actions Are Consistent with His Words

A man who loves you God’s way won’t only speak love — he’ll demonstrate it daily. He shows up when it matters, listens to your needs, and supports your dreams.

 1 John 3:18 — “Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

 3. He Prays with You and for You

If a man truly loves you God’s way, prayer will be part of your relationship. He’ll mention your name before God in secret and won’t be shy to hold your hands in prayer when life gets hard.

 James 5:16 — “The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.”

 4. He Respects Your Boundaries and Values

He understands that purity, peace, and self-respect are gifts from God. He won’t pressure you to do what displeases God or make you feel guilty for choosing holiness.

1 Corinthians 13:5 — “Love is not self-seeking.”

 5. He Brings You Peace, Not Confusion

You don’t have to guess how he feels or where the relationship is heading. When love is from God, it brings clarity and calmness to your spirit.

 1 Corinthians 14:33 — “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.”

6. He Invests in Your Purpose, Not Just Your Pleasure

A godly man will see your calling as a blessing, not a burden. He’ll encourage you to pursue your dreams and cheer you on as you grow.

Proverbs 31:11 — “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”

 7. He Is Willing to Wait and Do Things the Right Way

True love is patient. A godly man will not rush you or manipulate you emotionally. He knows that waiting builds trust, and trust builds a strong foundation.

 1 Corinthians 13:4 — “Love is patient, love is kind.”

 Bible Verses for Discernment and Godly Love

📖 Romans 12:9 — “Let love be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.”

📖 Ephesians 5:25 — “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church.”

📖 Proverbs 18:22 — “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”

📖 Amos 3:3 — “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

📖 Psalm 37:4 — “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”

Dear lady, true love will never draw you away from God -it will draw you closer.

It will not silence your voice - it will strengthen it.

It will not compete with your destiny - it will complete it.

Before you say yes to a man, ask yourself:

“Does this relationship help me walk closer to God or pull me away from Him?”

If the answer is peace, purpose, and growth - it’s God’s way.

If the answer is confusion, pain, and compromise — step back and let God guide you.

Your waiting season is not a waste; it’s a preparation.

The man who truly loves you God’s way will come not just for your heart, but for your purpose. 

God bless you 

Chinyere Inspires